Sprinkles of joy

My friend spoke last weekend about something called Morning Joy. Knowing our sweet boy's birthdate was coming up, I've been rolling that phrase around in my head trying to figure out how it fits for me, in my life, right now. 

Today, one year after Hayes Andrew was born, I think I started getting little sprinkles of it. 

This morning, in the glow of the Christmas tree, I sat rocking my sweet girl thinking about how different life was on this morning a year ago. The beautiful silver angel engraved with our son's name caught my eye and as much as it hurts to remember, I couldn't help but feel a little joy as I squeezed my girl tighter and counted my lucky stars to be the arms she runs to every day. 

I stayed busy all day today on purpose. I told Parker how much I love her a few times more than normal. I picked up my sweet babies' daddy early from work so we could go visit our son's grave and hang the cedar wreath his Mimi made for him. He needed his sister's Christmas card added to the Valentine heart and Easter egg we had left for him in previous visits. We needed to eat birthday cake...because...why would a person NOT use any excuse to make birthday cake and share it with their family? :-) 

Truth? Today has been hard. I woke up at 2:00 this morning and knew immediately what the day would hold. And I'm not going to lie, today has been tough. I think a few of those near and dear knew too because of the "just because" texts that beeped in before 9am this morning and the card left on the counter remembering our hurt. 

I realized on my way home tonight that among all of those moments I found a few more sprinkles of joy. I'm thankful for family and friends' that are family who go out of their way to remember a day that changed the very way I think of being a Mommy. I'm thankful...that I can see through the nightime sorrow and find some joy in the fact that while we had to lose him, he was born, we had the opportunity to hold him, name him and we have a place to go back to remember him. I'm thankful we can eat birthday cake in his honor every year. 

I'm thankful that while we didn't get to keep him, God still chose me to be his and Parker's mama. 

Morning joy. I'm working on it. I'm closer than I used to be. 

4 "Sing praises to the Lord, O you his saints,and give thanks to his holy name.
5 For his anger is but for a moment,
    and his favor is for a lifetime.
Weeping may tarry for the night,
    but joy comes with the morning."

Psalm 30:5-6

And just like that...

Sometimes we think about things and in our head we work it out to be something AWESOME...a chance we swear we'd take in a heartbeat if we ever had the opportunity. And then when the time comes to take the leap, to check the box, to say "yes;" we pull back. Usually when I'm ready to shy away from something I get a sick, super nervous feeling in my gut that I can't deny. That's how I know I'm about to make a wrong decision. 

Well, today when I had a heart to heart with my principal and hit send on the email ensuring my leave of absence for the upcoming school year, not one butterfly danced in my stomach. I tried to get nervous, I tried to have second thoughts but they just weren't there. Part of that, I know, is because I have the security of coming back after a year if I really want to. That definitely helps. But realizing I no longer had a deadline on my time with P and I would continue having two days with Mike every week sealed the deal for me. 

With everything I've learned and felt not only over the past seven months but since the day Parks was born, I know right here, right now, this is what's best for me; for our family. I am so very thankful to have a husband who supports the decision, a career that allows for it and a host of family and friends who stand behind me. 

Bring it Fall...I don't dread you any longer. 

Two Roads

Two roads diverged in a wood, and I— 

I took the one less traveled by, 

And that has made all the difference.

Excerpt from The Road Not Taken by Robert Frost

A sorority sister gifted me those lines my Senior year of college. Over the years I thought I understood the words and possibly even on occasion took "the road less traveled." While I may have traveled a few winding roads most people wouldn't choose, none of those roads were anything like the one I've been on over the last seven months. 

Kids change everything. The ones you have as well as the ones you lose and also the ones your heart dreams about having one day. A sweet friend said something over lunch that made me realize how much different the world looks to me since becoming a Mom. Time is constantly slipping by. Some people look at time and feel as if they're losing the chance to travel and see the world. I know others who are building their career as fast as they can so they can chase reirement. I respect both desires. Travel. Success. But somewhere along the way soaking up TODAY, my right here, right now took precedence for me. Our sweet babies grow and change so fast. There's such a short time that they truly need you and want to spend their time with you. It seems like life looks very different once a child starts school. Those first five years are so precious. Once those years are up, I'm not sure how long it takes for that child to look at their parents with the love and admiration they once had. Those feelings seem to be replaced with independence, friendship and boundary-pushing. :) While I don't want to miss a minute of any of it, I really, really want to soak up these first few years. 

This has all led me back to the two paths. The easy path...familiar...well lit that leads to an obviously comfortable place. Or the other one. Fairly safe but obviously rocky and much less predictable.  

I'm a safe person by nature. I want the "known." I want to feel like I did the smart thing...but I think maybe my heart and my mind are conflicting. It's like wearing a high heeled shoe on one foot and your favorite running shoe on the other. Both are shoes. Both will take you places, but their destination and the steps in between are nothing alike. 

I want to choose the road less traveled. I want the experience and the life moments that the unpredictable will bring. I want to look back when I'm 50 and know I took smart chances and stretched what God gave me as far as it could go. 

My life has taken a few drastic turns over the years. Some by choice but others by force. The forced ones, the painful ones, left the deepest marks but they're the ones I'll never forget. They're the ones that molded me and caused true growth and change in my life. The road I walk is not alone though. A strong, sturdy hand as well as a precious one filled with curiosity goes with me so this path has to be best for them as well. 

-Sometimes everything

has to be

enscribed across 

the heavens

so you can find

the one line

already written

inside you.

Sometimes it takes

a great sky

to find that

first, bright

and indescribable

wedge of freedom

in your own heart.

-Excerpt from The Journey by David Whyte

Here's to finding our way down the paths we choose and coming out better on the other side. 

Out with 32 in with 33

Year 33. A fresh start. That's what a birthday is...same kind of thing as New Years Day only it's your own personal beginning. 

I don't know if I can start fresh until I count the blessings (along with the sorrows) of the past. I have a beautiful, smart, crazy, sassy two year old little girl. I have an awesome husband. A stupid dog. I have a few really good friends. We've made really smart financial decisions. I have an incredibly supportive family. I've successfully once again claimed the title of "a runner." We've known the hope of having another child. 

Enter the sorrows. We had a small heart scare with Parker (everything is fine). We've lost a few really precious friends and family members...one of which was our son. After trying for nearly a year we found out last year on Mike's birthday that I was pregnant. After 12 weeks, perfect check-ups and a perfect ultrasound, Parker announced the upcoming arrival of her little sidekick. For really no specific reason other than God's perfect plan, I went into labor with and delivered that sweet boy at 17 weeks on December 9. He was genetically and developmentally perfect. He had his sister's profile and he had his Daddy's heart and his Mama's soul from the moment he was born. 

Now--I have to stop and state the obvious and say, I'm a worrier. Anyone who knows me well at all knows this! I think too much. I know too much. I've unfortunately wondered in the past what it would feel like to lose a child. I think that's every mother, soon to be mother or future mother's biggest fear.  To miscarry. There's really no way to describe it other than to say; instead of hope and excitement for his future, we only felt sorrow and heart shattering dread at the thought of having to bury him. Leave him. The idea of coming home and telling our too smart little girl that there isn't a baby in her Mommy's belly anymore and that her little brother went to Jesus' birthday isn't something I think I could do again. No...it was only due to some kind of superhuman strength that I got through it the first time. 

Like I said from the beginning: blessings and sorrows. 

32 was an eye opening, time to grow up, year for me. There are lots of things that don't make sense anymore and when you see first hand just how short and delicate life can be, you don't waste so much time on those things. I come home to my family as quick as I can after work. I try to say I'm sorry when I screw up. I spend birthday weekends in Branson with my family. I plan a day to plant flowers by my Son's grave with my Grandma and my Mama. 

Even though the sorrows left some really deep marks that won't ever go away, 32 made me better for 33. I have a pretty amazing husband, an incredible daughter, a Son in heaven and a future filled with a lot of hope. I know that bad times may come. I have no idea how I'll handle it...one thing's for certain though...I won't have to do it alone.  

Spring has Sprung

Could Spring Break have arrived at a better time? 

I. Think. Not. 

I needed a break. I needed to rest. I needed time with my girl and the hubs & the rest of my family. 

I can safely say we managed to squeeze every ounce of time out of this break. 

We created Parker's big girl room. It's missing a few key elements, but it's definitely a precious little BIG girl room. 

Due to her extreme love of books, she has her own reading corner complete with mini rocking chair. On any given day she'll go missing and you can find the little bundle sitting in her chair pouring over a book. LOVE HER. 

Family time at the zoo came next. Parker and Daddy experienced the zoo for what must have felt like the first time. Mike hadn't been in years and Parker was only just learning to sit up when she went. The fun came as she repeated the name of each animal in her little 14 month old voice. Bear=Bar. Rhino=Ri. Bird=Bir. She does roar and act like the lions/tigers. That's probably my favorite thing. That and the mooing (no, there aren't any cows at the zoo but that may be her favorite sound to make). 

                  "Zoo! Zoo! Zoo!" 

     Parker and Daddy seeing the geese.

I think every kiddo like to pose here. :)

      When it's nap time, it's nap time. 

After our awesome day at the Zoo, Parker and I took off to Branson with Grammy and Granny Pat. 

Parker's shopping high points were new sunglasses and eating cookies. 

She loved riding the bugs (caterpillars) and "fog" (frogs) at Silver Dollar City.

She also loved riding the carousel with Grammy! 

After a little round of digging in the dirt,

she very happily crashed from exhaustion! 

We're laying low on this end of Spring Break. I clocked 11miles last night on my last training run before the half so Mama is tired and sore. Today's excitement consists of hopefully getting the decals on P's wall (polka dots, chevron stripe and of course her name) and then celebrating Mimi's birthday tonight! 

Now, only 10 weeks before Summer vaca! Let the countdown begin!!! 

365 Sundowns

*just realized I never published this from Jan 4. 

My wide eyed, black haired baby girl who arrived in just 6 1/2 hours one Monday evening is one year old. Today. She's walking. She's got an extensive vocabulary for someone who's only been around for 52 weeks (although her favorite word is only three letters long: 

H-A-T. Her second favorite word is a four letter word. One that's enough to make a Mama crazy. One that's repeated over and over again until she finally gets frustrated and yells, "That!" She sings "Itsy bitsy spider" (or at least the first few sounds of it). She knows the friggin' difference between a shoe and a boot! She might be a genius, but I figure it's still too soon to be sure. ;) 

She's a blessing. A little bundle of sunshine who can make anyone smile. She's happy. Like 98% of the time. Her hugs can make a believer out of anyone. She. Is. Precious. I hope I can be half as happy as she is. She's teaching me SO much about life. 

She has my heart. I think she has more of it today than she did the day she was born. She grows on you. She's phenomenal when you meet her but she's like a happy little drug. The more you are with her, the more you want to be with her. 

I love her with my whole being. She makes me want to be a better person. 

She has a beautiful little village who adores her. Much of that village arrived on her doorstep Saturday night for her birthday party. My little princess greeted them in her pearls. LOL The 44 people who were here have a special place in my heart for coming and celebrating my girl. 

First Christmas

It's been forever. Four months to be exact since I last logged in to the ol' blog.  In my defense, I have been writing though...grocery lists and Thank You cards count, right??

Two days before Christmas and I keep catching myself staring at this sweet baby girl (who's not so much a baby but a toddler these days). This time last year I was only imagining what being a Mommy would be like. This year...I'm watching in wide eyed amazement as this beautiful, perfect mess of an angel shows us what Christmas spirit looks like in action. She points out the tree on command. She smiles at and causes others to smile no matter where we go. She manages to show up when we least expect it with the ONLY breakable Christmas ornament on the tree. She thinks every gift has a book in it (thanks to the 25 books of Christmas). She has the sweetest, "Thannnkkk youuuu" I've ever heard. She experienced the beauty of Rhema strapped to my belly with hats, mittens and blankets wrapped around her because it was 22* outside and she still managed to boast a smile and dance right along with the twinkling lights. She asks for & points at  "dat!" while I'm baking sugar cookies. 

She's by far the best gift I've ever received. She adds an element of magic and fun to everything we do. Her daddy and I are as excited to experience Christmas morning with her as I imagine we used to be for ourselves. 

I don't know what it is...but when I watch her sleep all I see is a beautiful angel. When she's awake her bright eyes shine with wonder and excitement, but when she's sleeping there's an unbelievable sense of peace of beauty that covers her face. I know I'm biased but to me...

She. Is. Perfect. 

Merry Christmas...

from our home to yours.